40 Weeks Meetup

Tomorrow will be the first time moms, dads and babies from 40 Weeks will be meeting up since the premiere of the documentary. I am so excited to host this event! I am currently making strawberry cupcakes and snacks for tomorrow. When 40 Weeks premiered at the Angelika in Manhattan I felt a connection with the other moms from the documentary and a few of us got to bond at the after party. We friended each other on Facebook, send encouraging text messages, and are planning for road trips already! Being a parent gives people such a strong bond. Our lives have changed and I am so lucky to have made so many friends along the way. Each journey is different but being a parent unifies us. 

I have to confess that being a second time parent has been difficult. There is no “me” time anymore just “Ethan time” or “Dex time” or “Ethan AND Dex time.” I love being a mom but between breastfeeding, crafting DIY enriching activities, changing diapers, train track building, eating well balanced, natural, organic meals (or trying to) and bath time; there is no time in between. Now times that all by two and on top of all that I have started working. For example, our five year anniversary is coming up and I have been trying to lose some of this baby weight I’ve gained between the two pregnancies. The only time I have to even attempt to work out is after both boys are asleep which is after 9pm. By that time I am pooped. Laundry, dishes, the whole house still needs to be cleaned. So what do I do? Do one thing at a time but working out seems to take the back burner. I hope cleaning will count as my work out. Just waiting till the boys get older and it is warmer outside. Maybe I can start jogging with them. Yes, wishful thinking 🙂 

Can’t wait to see the 40 Weeks crew!
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Lazy Sunday

We had plans today. Church in the morning, swimming at the youth center and then a quick stop at Whole Foods to grab a few fresh fruits and vegetables for the week. What did we end up doing? Nada. It was a ugly, cold, rainy day in New York City. We did not have the motivation to leave our warm, cozy apartment. I spent last night cleaning after the boys went to sleep and I patted myself on the back and went to sleep. Dexter woke up twice and there went my night sleep. I was tired waking up – zombie-like tired as we ate cereal in the morning. Luckily Ethan was easily distracted by Cars, his favorite cartoon, and Dex took a nice, long morning nap (most likely since he didn’t sleep the night before) So we took a nap in the living room and felt bliss and guilt at the same time. We didn’t go out. We didn’t do anything we had initially planned. So we needed a plan B after the nap. What did we do? Ethan’s favorite – finger painting! This time around we made it educational. Here is the result after a messing start on our kitchen table.

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We mixed primary colors to make new ones. Red, blue and yellow… Ethan had a blast and he didn’t get too messy – he wore his IKEA paint cover, which I recommend buying since it is so cheap and easy to clean. Thankfully finger paint is also easy to clean from surfaces, hands, faces, etc and Ethan did a great job at helping me. Dexter got to watch so hopefully he got some education stimulus too. SO did I wish we could do more every day? Yup, but I think we did okay today because both boys were in bed at 830pm – bathed and happily dreaming of tomorrow’s adventures. Happy boys – check, clean home – ummmmmmm half check…

New Year resolutions

2015 came so quickly and now I have two beautiful boys. There are few things that I must try to do better this year. 

First, BLOGGING. I definitely dropped the ball last year with my blogging and always think I should have documented this vital part of my life. I do have to thank the crew at 40 weeks though since we did more video blogging than ever so I got to capture memories this way. Still writing is so intimate and you can share so much. My goal is to blog and capture all those life events and my feelings as much as possible. 

Second, organic/natural/free products. We have been doing well with this last year but need more of a boost in 2015. We have started using Seventh Generation products in most of all avenues of our lives. Seventh Generation diapers, bath soap, laundry detergents, cleaning products and even dabble into SG wipes. We also have like Honesty products from Jessica Alba especially her bath soap for babies. The scent is amazing. My boys both have sensitive skin so I have always tried to research different products and stayed natural and free for their beautiful skin and hair. Now I just need to make sure our food and diet can reflect that too. Of note, here are my favorite products:
1. Seventh Generation and Honest Co. diapers – smooth and natural on a babies bottom
2. Huggies Natural wipes – bigger and stronger than other brands 
3. Seventh Generation cleaning products – Safe for babies and really cleans
4. Honest Co. bath soap – mild and fragrant without drying babies’ sensitive skin 

Third, saving money. This is the resolution I need the most help with. Graduating from my Ob/Gyn residency is great but then I went on maternity leave which meant no more income (though residency income is laughable). The problem is the loan money is now due. On top of that, babies are expensive. Ethan, my 3rd year old, has school fees, extracurricular activities, new clothes (he is growing like a weed) and babysitting and more… Dexter, my lil baby of 4 months, DIAPERS, DIAPERS, WIPES, DIAPERS, and more diapers… In between all that Min and I have not had a date night since Dex has been born and really barely any since Ethan was born. I need more money saving solutions. I have started working but then it seems all my money disappears as soon as I get my paycheck. Help please? 

I will return to this post at the end of the year and hopefully will check each thing off. Happy New Year! 

P.S. Here is a photo of the boys

Dexter coming soon!

I am now 36 weeks awaiting the arrival of our second son, Dexter Kim. I am definitely having Braxton Hicks contractions now. I extremely tired. Still we just moved 2 weeks ago and my husband and I have nonstop tried to unpack as I decorate the new apartment. We had our baby shower and the theme was a vintage bow tie and mustaches with rustic, wooden touches of gold birds, a birdcage, and ethereal flowers. We had a photo booth with props for the guests. I had such a fun time planning with my girls but I have to say that I was a bit overwhelmed this time around since I am much slower at unpacking with a 30 pound belly. Min was so good at setting up the living room up and helping me realize my vision for our home decor. Here are some photos of the baby shower.

 

No excuses – just lazy!

To sum up about two years, Diana has delivered us a new addition to our family. I’ve been doing the same o’le at work and we have various nights were sleep was interrupted from time to time.

We also moved twice, yup that’s right twice. As we discovered we were with child we moved to the financial district to start nesting for our little boy. After a year, we found various options which included more room for more optimal dollar per square feet values. In this cost effective move, we actually lucked out tremedously

Literally the day before Hurricane Sandy struck the north eastern coast, we moved from one building that was about 5-6 feet lower in elevation than the building that we live in now. Our old apartment had major issues from flooding and is not expected to be habitable for even a few months in the future.

Our new apartment is still not completely restored, but was at least habitable after 3 weeks. Eletricity is pumping from a diesel generator outside and I hear that the maintenance crews have to pump water up the towers 20 minutes at a time, every hour on the hour. Still the team that works at this building is incredibly courteous and I’m very grateful that we made it through.

With that the final update is that we’re still setting up the new apartment. It’s about 85% setup, I would say. The last few things are assembling some last pieces of furniture, installing some shelves and putting up some pictures. I look forward to this holiday season and wish everyone else some joy this season!

Contractions – packed and ready to go…

So contractions are starting now… at midnight on December 18, 2011. The contractions are coming every 10 minutes or so. Now, I am breathing through them but I will probably not go to the hospital until my water breaks. I do not plan to lay in a hospital bed for hours when I could walk and be comfortable at home. I want a good labor. I am staying well dehydrated. So let me know Ethan when you are ready to come out to this brand new world!

Lazy Friday

I really love to steam my chai tea latte. It so smooth and warm for the winter season. I am trying to get the apartment together now. But before I pampered myself with a hot, skinny chai latte and gave myself a mud facial & mani/pedi. It was not a real pedi though; I can’t reach my toes. Ethan was kicking the whole time. He wants more space but my belly can only accommodate so much. 

 
Ethan is growing so big and strong. I wonder how he looks like. I know I will fall in love with him when I see him. How can you not fall in love with your baby? Ethan will look like the man I love or me. A bit of vanity I know but looking into Ethan’s eyes, I just know that I will love him so much.

Pregnancy progress

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Min and I went to the hospital 4 days ago when I started having contractions every 10 minutes then every 4 minutes as we took the cab to Beth Israel. The resident checked me and I was only 1 cm at that time. We went home around 4:30am.
Today I stayed home all day and rested. I want to be a good mommy for Ethan. He needs to grow big and strong with well developed lungs inside my belly. I went to the doctor yesterday and I am 2cm dilated, 50% effaced, and -2 station already. I am only 36 weeks! There has been some cervical changes so I am taking things slow. I do not want to go into preterm labor. Ethan needs to cook more. He is so active now, punching and kicking all the time.
I will be getting a sonogram next week. The bedside sonogram showed that Ethan is vertex and doing well with a strong heart. He is approximately 6 1/2 pounds now. He’s my big boy.
Min is so proud and eager for Ethan to come but at the right time. He loves us so much. He has been so supportive and cute with his man diaper bag he got at the baby shower. We are both counting the days.
I am excited that my family is coming for Christmas. I just need to finish my Christmas shopping though. I love this time of year; I love wrapping presents, decorating the house, making food and hot chocolate! I am missing the snow though. I want Ethan to see snow.

BlogSpot

It has indeed been some time since the last blog entry and it definitely has been a mis-mash of ideas of how I wanted to blog, but I’m thinking the best is the idea that is the easiest. Now with Blogspot and “Windows Live Writer”, Diana and I should hopefully be able to both collaborate what’s going on in one place.

Some very slow progress is going on to revamping the main page with HTML5 & CSS3, but a lot more progress is being made on the android shooter game.

Other news is that our son Ethan is less than a month from joining us. I can’t wait to see him!

Disk Failure!

So it’s been a while since my last post and it’s interesting to see that I haven’t blogged since I entered the E2 program. I’m now done and it was indeed quite an adventure. I’ve leave out the details for anyone who is interesting in pursuing it, but be ready to be tired!

We’ve now moved back into the city and on a very loud and annoying street. I get to enjoy the sound of buses, random drunks, jack hammers and velociraptors.

So back to the nerding topics. Shazouty had an uber disk failure which made me a very sad panda and I potentially lost about 4 months worth of data /sadface. It turned out that having raid 0 is good and bad at the same time. I don’t know if this was just a bad batch of disks, a random anomaly or what. Regardless, one disk was silently failing with bad clusters. The raid was protecting the data by having it available on the other disk. However, the secondary disk was slowly degenerating as well. While both were sprouting full of bad sectors, they were in different sectors so one was protecting the data from the other. That happened until eventually both disks had a bad sector… on my file table. Additionally ReiserFS had apparently stop being a good choice… years ago.

So after trying ReiserFsck to death and booting off cd images over and over trying to squeeze off from the dying raid, I realized it was time to cut my losses and just learn from the lesson. Fortunately, some of the data was still on Bunny(Diana named our newest laptop) and Badbox, so it wasn’t a complete loss. I now have a monthly reminder to check the SMART data of the drives to check the bad sectors and also backup to an external drive.

While this nerdy info isn’t as programming nerdy as I’d like my poasts to be, I will try to make sure I have some interesting for the next post. In the mean time another youtube video.